Welcome our newest addition to the family at 21 …

On Friday evening at 7:30pm, we welcomed our newest addition to our family at 21 years of age as Caleb and our daughter Kerstyn were joined in holy matrimony … welcome Caleb!


Above is a post wedding picture of the bride and groom with their respective parents.  (pictured from left to right: my wife Sheryl, myself … I have some good color today, our daughter Kerstyn, our new son-in-law Caleb, his mom Rebecca and his dad Sandy).

Yes, that is a pink flamingo.  My love of pink flamingos is infamous within our family.  And typically the first picture I receive from the grandkids always includes … a pink flamingo.  And no, this is not a joke done in poor taste but one done by my daughter the bride out of love and respect for her Daddy.

You see, my Stage IV colon cancer has taken a turn for the worse … with the spread to the liver it is now untreatable.  So I find myself on in home hospice and typically I am either in the bed or in the recliner and last week was one of the worst of the last six weeks so I could not attend the wedding.  So having a pink flamingo as a stand-in for this picture and all the laughter it will bring through the coming years to my family … well, it was done out of love respect and honor.

(Lord willing, later this week I will share about the prenuptial ceremony Sheryl and I had with Kerstyn and Caleb Thursday morning.)


The theme and attire for the wedding was casual beach.  Here my son aka grandson escorts his Nana and my wife Sheryl to their seats … he is pulling double duty as ring bearer.

Tradition typically calls for the family of the bride to take responsibility of planning, preparing and running the wedding.  With my cancer complication, taking on that responsibility was beyond the realm of possibilities for Sheryl and me.  So my sister Beth, her husband Jack and my niece Kate not only took on all those responsibilities but also offered to host the wedding and reception afterward poolside, on the deck and in their house.  What a blessing they are and everyone I have spoken to has said the wedding just could not have been any more perfect.


Above my 90 year old dad escorts my daughter to her husband-to-be and the altar.  When asked who gives Kerstyn’s hand in marriage, ‘Her family does.’  Thanks Dad for standing in on this special day.  You are greatly loved and appreciated!

You may notice that they are walking in hand-in-hand.  When each of the grandkids stayed with my Mom and Dad, my Dad would tell them to hold his hand so they wouldn’t get run over in the parking lot.  After that didn’t work, he asked them to hold his hand so he wouldn’t get run over in the parking lot.  And that has stuck with Kerstyn to this very day.  She still holds his hand in the parking lot.


Let me close with the above picture … which I absolutely love.  My sister Beth is taking this picture over the shoulders of our Mom and Dad as my daughter Kerstyn and Caleb are joined in holy matrimony by my brother-in-law Jack.

A day full of thanksgiving … Lord, we ask for your blessings upon their marriage!


About bwebbjr

A grandfather, father, husband, man, and a child of God who is following Christ Jesus and working out his salvation with fear and trembling; for it is God who is at work IN me, both to will and to work for His good pleasure (Philippians 2:12-13). I dodged my first bullet with cancer when a cancerous polyp was removed in a sigmoid colectomy surgery in August 2007. Four years later, in the midst of a second colectomy surgery we discovered I had Stage IV metastatic colon cancer. Rather than colectomy surgery I had colostomy surgery, which now means the colostomy bag is a part of my everyday life ... with the emphasis on life. God has given us a peace beyond understanding as my wife and I have traveled this journey. By the grace of God I am blessed to be a 6 plus year cancer survivor aka warrior. In writing, I am often wrestling with my own personal struggles and beliefs and in the midst God leads me to a lesson He wants me to learn ... or sometimes He simply touches me in the revelation of Himself. My hope is that the result you see here might touch your heart and glorify God. And let me be clear ... I am not the only one with something to say. Please join in the conversation sharing your faith, your cancer experiences, etc. I would love to hear from you. Bernie
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8 Responses to Welcome our newest addition to the family at 21 …

  1. Corban says:

    I thought you were hiding in the blue tent. Then I read about the flamingo. Blessings on you my brother!

  2. Anne Kirkland says:

    Well, Bernie, I always cry at weddings, and this one was no exception. First I was deeply touched when I realized “Oh, no, Bernie wasn’t able to go.” Then, as I read on, the sad tears turned to joy as I realized the treasure you have in family members who made sure, to the best of their ability, that you were included and able to experience the event, remotely and in real time.
    That was 10 minutes ago, and the tears continue….
    I know how much this wedding meant to you, and that you and Sheryl have patiently waited in the Lord for this day.
    Congratulations on your new son-in-law, and sending wishes and prayers for Kerstyn and Caleb to have a joyful life together.

    Praying in the Spirit for you and your family, as He brings you to my mind.
    You are so loved, my very dear brother, and I thank God for bringing you into my life,

    • bwebbjr says:

      Thank you so much for your wishes and prayers for Kerstyn and Caleb as they begin the lifelong commitment and adventure of marriage. Also, thank you for your prayers for my family and me as we journey through this challenging journey. Your spiritual words and walk of faith have had a far greater influence on my life than you will ever know … you are a blessing to me!!!

      Your brother IN Christ Jesus … our ALL IN ALL!

  3. Congrats! Your daughter is blessed to have what appears to be a wonderful extended family now.

  4. jimdavenport says:

    Bernie, what a beautiful post! And so happy that you were included in all of your “pinkness” … Perfect tribute to a loving father.

    Kerstyn and Caleb will be in our prayers as will you, Sheryl and Noah.

    Love you my brother.


    • bwebbjr says:

      Thanks for your (You and Charlotte) prayers for me and my family. It was a beautiful wedding and from everything I have been told just could have not been any more perfect. Praising the Lord for all Hi mysterious ways and great love


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