Andy Andrews on forgiveness

Note: Received this message on forgiveness from Andy Andrews this week via e-mail.  I found the short video and the associated notes both insightful and personally convicting and decided to share it here on the blog.  Watch … read … consider …   Bernie

In this video blog, I (Andy Andrews) answer an important reader question that keeps many people up at night:

  • Why should I forgive someone who I know is never going to be sorry?

Video Notes

Forgiveness is not about the other person; it’s about you.

When you forgive someone, the person being forgiven does not have to:

  • Ask for it
  • Deserve it
  • Be sorry for what they’ve done
  • Even know you are forgiving them

Forgiveness is about you. It allows you to:

  • Let go of anger
  • Avoid bitterness
  • Stop letting someone else’s actions affect your life
  • “Forgiveness frees the forgiver”

Forgiveness is a decision; it is not an emotion.

  • When you decide to forgive, however, your emotions will eventually follow
  • You have been created with a will that is stronger than your emotions

Forgiveness is not the same as trust.

  • You forgive people who steal from you, but you don’t have to continue doing business with them

I wrote about the principle of forgiveness in my book The Heart Mender

©2009-2014 Andy Andrews. Used by Permission. Originally posted on

About bwebbjr

A grandfather, father, husband, man, and a child of God who is following Christ Jesus and working out his salvation with fear and trembling; for it is God who is at work IN me, both to will and to work for His good pleasure (Philippians 2:12-13). I dodged my first bullet with cancer when a cancerous polyp was removed in a sigmoid colectomy surgery in August 2007. Four years later, in the midst of a second colectomy surgery we discovered I had Stage IV metastatic colon cancer. Rather than colectomy surgery I had colostomy surgery, which now means the colostomy bag is a part of my everyday life ... with the emphasis on life. God has given us a peace beyond understanding as my wife and I have traveled this journey. By the grace of God I am blessed to be a 6 plus year cancer survivor aka warrior. In writing, I am often wrestling with my own personal struggles and beliefs and in the midst God leads me to a lesson He wants me to learn ... or sometimes He simply touches me in the revelation of Himself. My hope is that the result you see here might touch your heart and glorify God. And let me be clear ... I am not the only one with something to say. Please join in the conversation sharing your faith, your cancer experiences, etc. I would love to hear from you. Bernie
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2 Responses to Andy Andrews on forgiveness

  1. It took me 35 years to forgive someone who did a great wrong to me, but when I did I felt freedom like I never felt before. My mind was no longer occupied with thinking of ways I could hurt this person (horrible, but true). Instead I was released! I was unburdened and it changed my life. I honestly feel this decades of hurt and hate contributed to my developing cancer. It may not have been the ONLY reason, but it sure didn’t help things. I know I can’t prove it, but I really feel it.
    Great post Bernie and a great way to start the New Year week!

    • bwebbjr says:

      Thanks for being so transparent in sharing your story and experience … praise God for the freedom! So glad to hear you found this post a great way to start the week. May God truly bless you and yours throughout 2014! Bernie

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